Hurt Soul's Journal... Please Help TAM!! - Talk About Marriage

Now to my current situation. I will be 32 later this month and my significant other will be turning 25 this year. We would have been together 3 years this month.

When we first started dating her father had just passed away 3 months earlier. She obviously took this hard. Things were awesome at first. We really had a great time together. I was affectionate and really just the perfect BF. 4-5 months into our relationship my father passed away. This was extremely difficult for me. And I don't if it was at this time or little afterward I started acting cold. I wasn't as affectionate and if she did something that I didn't like rather than just speak to her about it I would resent her and ignore her. I wasn't always like this but enough for it to make her hurt. As things progressed there were obviously good and bad times. A little over a year into our relationship we went on a cruise together and had a good time. Approximately a month after we got back from the cruise she cheated on me.

I was really upset. She explained to me that she wasn't happy and that she felt like I was just waiting for something better or for me just to end it. Now normally I would have just told her to kick rocks and get out of sight but I took a look in the mirrior and said I really do love thid girl and I am going to try to make this work. Looking back it was a huge mistake. The mistake wasn't trying to work things out but not really addressing the issue.

I should explain that I am not really into the whole social media. I don't have a facebook, etc. My SO can not be any different. She can't be without her phone for more than 5 seconds. I asked her if she would delete her facebook and she explained that it was really just to keep in touch with her family. I thought about it more and not trying to be controlling I agreed. After all if she really wanted to that stuff is really easy to keep from someone.

So we continued in our relationship and things were ok. But I continued my old behavior of being cold and not communicating. The other wrench in our relationship is that she loves her job. Considers her job and people she works with like family. She would anything for the majority of them. She also works graveyard and I work 8-5.

Source: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/going-through-divorce-separation/68961-hurt-souls-journal-please-help-tam.html

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